There are a few reasons why I am not jumping on the wet panties
bandwagon for "50 Shades of Grey," but the foremost reason is because I am
happily engaged to the love of my life. Automatically you are rolling
your eyes and thinking that I am uptight and ridiculous for not seeing a movie
just because I'm 'in a relationship.' Or you may be thinking that my fiancé has
some sort of influence over my decision not to see it—wrong on both accounts.
My decision not to see this film, or worse, read the book, is because I’m not
into BDSM. *Gasp*
If you are, that’s great, that’s
fantastic, I am truly happy for you and whoever you’re with if you are both
enjoying what you’re doing. Who am I to judge what turns someone on? It’s just
not for me. Pain does not scream sexy to me. Being tied up, gagged, spanked,
slapped, choked, etc., seems a bit demoralizing in my eyes. I would hope that
the person I love would not want to see me in pain, or more, get off on it. If
you think pain is sexy, and if you like it, then like I said, keep on keepin’
on, but be sure your partner feels the same way.
I am a personal trainer and I train high school girls who have told me they are going to see this movie, who
are excited to see this movie, and I have to ask myself, “what kind of message
is being sent to young girls?”
I
have not read the books but from my understanding, the girl Anastasia, is a
virgin. Are young girls going to go to this movie and think that in order to
please their man they must feel pain? That’s what BDSM is, right? Pain for
pleasure? And I’ll say it again, if you’re into that, that’s fantastic, but I
can guarantee you that 95% of the women going to see this movie are not into
pain. And the percentage may be ever higher than that.
Sure,
you go buy some furry handcuffs and an ass tickler but I bet you won’t be
taking it to the BDSM extreme.
The
fact that so many women are squealing over this movie really just makes me want
to vomit. I'm literally embarrassed to have a vagina today, haha!
Sex
for a man is very visual, that’s why many of them turn to Internet porn. It’s
not about the emotional connection for them; they just want to see something
that turns them on.
For
women, our sexual pleasure comes from an emotional standpoint. We want to feel
a connection in order to feel pleasure. The women reading this series of books
are becoming emotionally invested in Christian Grey, the exact same way all
teenyboppers felt about Edward Cullen in Twilight. You may argue that it’s just
fantasy, it’s just a book, and you’re right. It is a fantasy. A fantasy you are
having about another man. You are making comparisons to
your boyfriend, fiancé, or husband. You are questioning your partner's ability in bed and wishing for something more exciting. As for the single ladies, they’re building
up expectations for their future significant other based off of a character in
a porn novel. A PORN NOVEL.
Women
are going to be lined up with their girlfriends just dying to get in to the
movie to squeal, and ‘oh and ah’ over Christian freaking Grey. Someone hand me a brown paper bag.
What
would you do if all of your men were lined up with their guy friends to view
actual pornography? Many of you would find it disgusting and pathetic. Well, I’m sorry
ladies, but that’s just how you look. You’re flaunting the fact that you’re
viewing porn.
The
movie may not show either of them ever climaxing, but let’s get real here, you
all have read the books, and the only reason they do not show them having an
orgasm is because the ENTIRE book is a porn and therefore if they put it all in
the movie, the movie would be a PORNOGRAPHIC FILM.
I
have no interest in reading the books and I never have and I love to read, I just don’t love to read
garbage. I’m all for some Nicholas Sparks romance stories, but a book based
solely around BDSM? No thanks.
Happy viewing ladies, but I really hope you take into consideration how it
makes you look. I really hope you think about how your significant other feels,
even if they say they’re secure with their sexuality and that they’re not
worried about a stupid book or film. I really hope you think about how you
would feel if they tables were turned. I chuckle at the thought of all the
tears and yelling that would go on if our men were trying to pull this one over
on us. The box offices would surely fall short in earnings because all of you
would be saying, “If you go and see that trash it’s over!”
My
decision not to see this movie is not based off of religion even though I
believe God’s word about lusting and what really counts as cheating in God’s
eyes, but more so, my decision not to read or view anything "50 Shades of Grey" is because I respect and love my fiancé. I value his opinion, his feelings, and
I value my own self-respect. I value how I am seen by my future husband, and
lusting over Christian Grey’s whips and gags is not how I want to be seen by
him, God, or society. Simply put, I would be ashamed and embarrassed
to be standing in that line for movie tickets today.
I
will be spending time with my fiancé at dinner tonight and I’ll probably talk him into
watching some sappy love movie at the end of the night that he'll only agree to watch because it'll make me happy. On second thought, knowing him, he'll probably happily watch it because he'll be ecstatic that he has a woman who makes decisions for herself, and that won't be standing in line with the rest of these crazy women today.
I wonder how many Valentine's Days will end in a fight? Shall we take a pole? I hope you don't expect your man to get you a teddy bear and some chocolate after you go see this movie...
Think about your men ladies. Think about yourself. Think about your daughter (future or present) and how she views herself and her sexuality.
Just think about it...
